Rekindling Togetherness
A 5 Week Workshop for Married Couples
Who are craving a way back together.
The course is limited to 4 couples so that everyone has space to process, connect and hear from each other, if they choose.
It can be so hard to see the way ahead in the midst of seasons of deep, profound disconnection.
You’re craving a new way forward, but have no idea how to find your way back to connection. Trust, love, respect are there, but life has gotten heavy and created a deep divide. The love is there but you just don’t always feel it. Most couples know there’s love but can’t get out from under the pressure and divide.
And this can feel so so lonely - to both of you.
This course offers companionship, thoughtful exploration, and spaceto process your experiences as you discover a new way forward.
It is for couples who are committed and ready to stop white-knuckling it.
Five weeks to understand what's been weighing on your relationship, and what becomes possible when you put some of it down.
You don't have to keep trying harder.
There is another way.
Marriage can be (ahem, is) hard.
Something's off. You both know it. And you're both tired of pretending otherwise.
Somewhere along the way the relationship started feeling more like a job, and less like a journey together. You're managing more than you're connecting. You're performing more than you're present. And the version of marriage you thought you were signing up for feels a long way from here.
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We're two therapists who have each been in the field for over 15 years. We are passionate about helping couples reconnect - in whatever season of life you find yourselves.
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This course will be conducted online. Colleen is located in Ohio (EST) and Jeff is in Seattle (PST). Wednesday evenings from 7-9 EST.
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Here's what we’ve learned, sitting with individuals and couples for over 30 combined years: most of the time, it's not one person or the other, it’s the pressure placed on the relationship that’s overloading.
As Esther Perel talks about, we've asked one relationship to do what an entire community used to do: to be our safety, our passion, our meaning, our healing, our home. That's a crushing amount of weight for two people to carry. And when they buckle under it, we call it failure. It isn't.
It’s the relationship’s integrity buckling under too much weight.
Rekindling is a five-week course built around a different question. Not what's wrong with us -but
What happens when we put this weight down and tend to a simple, unburdened, everyday spark in the relationship?
What This Workshop Covers:
You're more exhausted than estranged, but the estrangement is creeping in
The same loops keep running - pursuit and withdrawal, need and defense - and you're both worn out
Intimacy has quietly shifted from something you want to something you manage
You miss each other, even in the same house
This isn't therapy. It's a structured, honest space to have the conversations that most couples never get to have - with guidance, with each other, and with a little more courage than you walked in with.
Five weeks. Join other couples for deep, meaningful work and some actual relief.
We’d be honored to help foster a rekindling of your togetherness.
What You'll Walk Away With
A deeper understanding of the pressures impacting modern relationships
Greater awareness of relational patterns and dynamics
Tools for communicating with more openness and vulnerability
Insight into balancing connection with individuality
A renewed approach to intimacy, desire, and long-term partnership
Practical strategies for creating a relationship that can evolve and grow over time
Whether you're hoping to strengthen your partnership, deepen your self-awareness, or better understand the complexities of love and desire, this course offers a compassionate space for reflection, learning, and meaningful growth.
Why modern marriage is structurally overloaded - and why that's not a character flaw
Where/how the pressure shows up: the withdrawal, the resentment, the mismatched desire, the slow fade
How shame keeps couples isolated in the very place they most need to be known
Why losing yourself in the relationship doesn't save it - it starves it
What it looks like to choose each other again, freely, with some room to breathe
This course if for you if:
Investment:
1575/couple
Payment in advance
Limited to 4 couples
Dates: Wednesday eves, Sept 16-Oct 14
7-9p EST
Co-Leaders:
Colleen and Jeff went to grad school together and continued their learning journey in shared supervision after graduation. In this way, they learned with and from each other for years as they honed their clinical minds. They are excited to continue learning with and from each other as they co-lead this group.
Colleen Barrows, MA, LPCC, PMH-C
Colleen has worked in various capacities in the mental health field over the past 16 years, most recently focusing on perinatal/maternal mental health. She is passionate about supporting parents during this vulnerable and pivotal season. She currently focuses her work on helping parents in her private practice to heal their own early attachment traumas as they seek to be whole and healthy parents themselves.
She has explored various somatic healing practices and was a Registered Yoga Teacher for 5 years before having kids. She deeply believes in the mind-body connection and the wisdom of the body.
She lives in Columbus, OH with her husband, 6 year old and 3 year old - who are her best teachers and biggest fans. She is an artist, enjoys baking and definitely has a chocolate addiction.
Jeffrey Batstone, EdD, LMHC
Jeffrey's work focuses on growing emotional strength through self-compassion practices, regulation training, and relational skill-building. He integrates research on self-compassion, grief, and somatic attunement with depth-oriented psychotherapy. He's a licensed mental health counselor with over two decades of experience in private practice, men’s organizations, leadership development and faith communities. He lives with his wife and family in Bremerton WA.
Structure of Course:
Week 1: Identifying and defining the pressure on modern relationships
Explore early “agreements” of marriage and the idea of implicit contracts
Week 2: Explore the pain points/symptoms of pressure in relationships
Not enough vs. too much/polarity
Week 3: Individual and collective experience of pressure
Shame’s impact on connection
Week 4: Co-dependency vs. Individuation
Attempt at connection vs. True connection
Week 5: Connected and Separate
Paradox of intimacy and desire
What does it look like to rekindle connection and make a new working agreement?
Contact Us
Questions about the course?
Want to chat with Colleen and/or Jeff about the course?
Please reach out!